Your soul job and sole job is to find approval of God, not from people...

Understand that what you do is your karma, how others respond is their karma. Don't seek approval from without but only from within. A king doesn't becomes pauper just because someone says so and a pauper doesn't becomes a king merely by others saying so. Only God decides it. Don't surrender to the opinions of people but only surrender to God's will. The only thing that you need to pay heed is God's voice, the conscience, the inner voice. Always look at the bigger picture. Always aspire to do what takes you closer to God, not what people approve of. Your soul job and sole job is to find approval of God, not from people. Everyone responds to their own inner voice, so do your karma, that is the dharma, and then let go and let God.

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The Lord's humble servant sings the Glorious Praises of the Lord's Name. Even if someone slanders the Lord's humble servant, he does not give up his own goodness. Whatever the Lord and Master does, He does by Himself; the Lord Himself does the deeds. The Lord and Master Himself imparts understanding; the Lord Himself inspires us to speak. The Lord Himself directs the evolution of the world of the five elements; He Himself infuses the five senses into it. O servant Nanak, the Lord Himself unites us with the True Guru; He Himself resolves the conflicts.

Har jan rām nām gun gāvai.
Je ko▫ī ninḏ kare har jan kī apunā gun na gavāvai.
Jo kicẖẖ kare so āpe su▫āmī har āpe kār kamāvai.
Har āpe hī maṯ ḏevai su▫āmī har āpe bol bulāvai.
Har āpe pancẖ ṯaṯ bisthārā vicẖ ḏẖāṯū pancẖ āp pāvai.
Jan Nānak saṯgur mele āpe har āpe jẖagar cẖukẖāvai.

हरि जनु राम नाम गुन गावै
जे कोई निंद करे हरि जन की अपुना गुनु न गवावै
जो किछु करे सु आपे सुआमी हरि आपे कार कमावै
हरि आपे ही मति देवै सुआमी हरि आपे बोलि बुलावै
हरि आपे पंच ततु बिसथारा विचि धातू पंच आपि पावै
जन नानक सतिगुरु मेले आपे हरि आपे झगरु चुकावै

ਹਰਿ ਜਨੁ ਰਾਮ ਨਾਮ ਗੁਨ ਗਾਵੈ
ਜੇ ਕੋਈ ਨਿੰਦ ਕਰੇ ਹਰਿ ਜਨ ਕੀ ਅਪੁਨਾ ਗੁਨੁ ਨ ਗਵਾਵੈ
ਜੋ ਕਿਛੁ ਕਰੇ ਸੁ ਆਪੇ ਸੁਆਮੀ ਹਰਿ ਆਪੇ ਕਾਰ ਕਮਾਵੈ
ਹਰਿ ਆਪੇ ਹੀ ਮਤਿ ਦੇਵੈ ਸੁਆਮੀ ਹਰਿ ਆਪੇ ਬੋਲਿ ਬੁਲਾਵੈ
ਹਰਿ ਆਪੇ ਪੰਚ ਤਤੁ ਬਿਸਥਾਰਾ ਵਿਚਿ ਧਾਤੂ ਪੰਚ ਆਪਿ ਪਾਵੈ
ਜਨ ਨਾਨਕ ਸਤਿਗੁਰੁ ਮੇਲੇ ਆਪੇ ਹਰਿ ਆਪੇ ਝਗਰੁ ਚੁਕਾਵੈ

~Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji~

The idea is to live and let live, not die and make die…

Is being in a bad marriage and spending a lifetime on working things out better than a divorce? Or is divorce better than bad marriage?

Isn’t is too obvious that bad marriages creates even worse family environment for children as compared to the family environment created by divorced parents. Isn’t it better for the kids to see happy parents rather than fighting parents. Besides, world needs happy individuals and happy marriages, not marriages for the sake of marriages. 

Kids are way much smarter than the adults give them credit. They learn more from what they see than what they are told. Unfortunately the only thing kids unconsciously learn seeing their parents sticking in a pretentious relationship is pretentiousness. 

Is it really a dream of any parent, to see a child be anything but real, to self and to world?

Even for the couple, isn’t is pointless living a life sans any understanding, sans any passion. The idea is to live and let live, not die and make die. The purpose of life is to feel alive as long as you live, not to be dead until you die. Understand that sacrifice isn’t necessarily a virtue and happiness isn’t a sin.

Dear God, Dear Universe, Bless one and all, that everyone lives their life fully, passionately, and with an intensity of purpose. Amen.